WEEK 5
"ONE DAY" IS A DAY. PICK IT.
Last week I started something. I'm not telling you what yet. I asked my mom for help with the hard part and she didn't do it for me, which was annoying, but she showed me.
Here's the next thing. "One day I'll learn that song." "One day I'll ask her to be my friend." "One day I'll try out."
"One day" sounds like a plan. It isn't. It's a wish with no date on it.
Big mother energy means putting a real day on the thing. Tuesday. After school. Before dinner. Then it's real.
But wait. Before anything goes on the calendar, there's a question: is this one mine, or is this one ours? That's the next page. Read it before you pick a day.
HERE'S WHAT I'M SAYING OUT LOUD THIS WEEK:
"One day is Tuesday."
HERE'S WHAT I'M DOING THIS WEEK:
Sorting my "one day" into A or B, and then picking the day, or picking the family talk.
PRACTICE FIRST:
Say the day to the mirror. Then say it to your family, on tape. Then put it on the calendar.
Mirror, then with the family on tape (a grown-up's phone, private album called Practice), then for real.
WEEK 5 (CONTINUED): IS IT MINE, OR IS IT OURS?
Some "one days" I can do all by myself. Some need other people. Here's how I tell.
Category A: it's mine. I can do it with what I already have, by myself, without anybody driving me, paying for it, or saying yes. Asking a friend to play at recess. Practicing my lines. Saying hi first. Making the card. Reading one more chapter.
Category B: it's ours. It needs a grown-up's car, or money, or time, or a yes. Horseback riding. A sleepover. A new class. A pet. Anything with a ride.
The test: can I start it today without asking anybody? Then it's A. Pick the day and write it down. Does somebody else have to change their day, or their money, for it to happen? Then it's B.
B is not a no. B means it goes to the family first. I bring it to dinner, I say what it is and why I want it, and we figure out together if it works and when. Then it goes on the calendar, with everybody's handwriting on it.
And here's the trick: every B has an A inside it. I can't make horseback riding happen on Tuesday. But I can find out what it costs, write down three barns, and tell my mom why it matters to me. That part is mine, and I can start it today.
HERE'S WHAT I'M SAYING OUT LOUD THIS WEEK:
"Is this one mine, or is this one ours?"
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